10 years ago: NB "wants to build an autism residential facility, which would provide permanent care for severely autistic adults who can’t live on their own, Barbour said."

 PNB 10 year old commitment to a residential care and treatment facility for adults with severe autism challenges. Why Did New Brunswick Abandon Its Severe Autism Adult Residential Care Commitment to My Son and Other Severely Autistic Adults?

1.The PNB Commitment to Severely Autistic Adults

Mark Barbour, then a Department of Social Development spokesperson stated in a 2011 Aquinian article by Karissa Donkin then a St. Thomas University journalism student, now a CBC journalist "What resources are available when you’re growing up with autism?":

"Barbour admits the province needs to do more to help autistic adults.

“There is a need for more specialized services for autistic youth and adults, whose behaviours or conditions are severely impaired.

“These individuals require services and supports designed to specifically meet their high care needs.”

The province wants to build an autism residential facility, which would provide permanent care for severely autistic adults who can’t live on their own, Barbour said."

[The Full article by K. Donkin follows this commentary as Exhibit A]

Above My Son Conor 2011, 2015, 2016

No Progress has been made, no action taken, on the NB Department of Social Development statement that it wished to build an autism residential facility for severely autistic adults who can not live on their own.

In fact the Department now called the Department of Families and Children has taken no action to recognize the importance of Family by locating a youth with complex needs centre in Campbellton far from most families.

Department of Families and Children Minister Stephen Horsman actually informed me in a meeting this year that Campbellton was not too far for families in Fredericton (and by implication SJ, Moncton, St. Stephen etc) to drive to Campbellton each time they wished to be with their autistic family member.

Not a big deal. He himself had driven there once.

2. Families ARE actually important for severely autistic adults, as is Expertise and therefore - A Central Location in Fredericton

Families are actually important. The government has changed the name of the social services department yet again and included reference to families in the new title, so one would think the understood that fact. They don't seem to realize though that an intellectually challenged, severely autistic adult would benefit from frequent family contact and interaction, the more frequent the better. Centralization helps increase family contact just as it was once viewed as important to the location of a legislature. Centralization, placement of an adult autism centre in Fredericton also makes sense because autism expertise has been developing in Fredericton. The autism group homes could be placed around the province to be close to families and could receive training, oversight and treatment on a temporary basis who would not require permanent care and residency at the Centre in Fredericton.

3. So Why Hasn't NB Acted to Develop An Autism Facility for Severely Autistic Adults?

In a previous comment I pointed out the role politics played, according to 2 prominent NB liberals, Bernard Richard and Mike Murphy in the government decision to locate a youth with complex needs centre far from most families in Campbellton. I expressed my opinion that politics has also prevented the development of the facility referenced by Spokesperson Mark Barbour above or the autism centre and network advocated by NB autism expert Paul McDonnell and myself and other experienced parent autism advocates in NB.

An initial meeting with then Social Development Minister Cathy Rogers in 2015 left me feeling optimistic about the possibility of progress on adult autism issues. She came to our meeting with senior aides in attendance, asked serious questions, made no negative, dismissive remarks and in fact made suggestions about what might be needed to move forward. A year later in my meeting with Minister Horsman none of those factors were present and there is no evidence that the current Gallant government is taking adult autism issues seriously.

Whether it is politics, ignorance or both there is no legitimate explanation of which I am aware for abandonment of NB adults, particularly those with severe autism, by the Gallant government.

Exhibit A

What resources are available when you’re growing up with autism? By Karissa Donkin, The Aquinian

Fredericton’s Second Cup is loud and busy on a Tuesday afternoon and Conor doesn’t like it.

Conor is 15 years old and looks the part of a boy becoming a man. He’s nearly six-feet tall and growing sideburns. His blue eyes are staring out of the coffee shop’s window, where he’s watching a raging snowstorm blanket the downtown streets.

Every few minutes, when the noise gets to be too much to handle, Conor lets out a small scream and bats his ears with his hands.

The only person who can hold Conor’s attention is the man sitting across from him with the same blue eyes.

Since Conor was diagnosed as severely autistic and intellectually disabled 13 years ago, Harold Doherty has worked tirelessly to lobby the government to better support autistic children like his son. For the past five years, he’s operated a blog called Facing Autism in New Brunswick.

“There were no services here in New Brunswick … People had to stay active. There was a group of parents who did and I was one of them.”

But Doherty, a lawyer, is now in the fight of his life. As Conor nears adulthood, Doherty’s greatest worry is that the province doesn’t have the proper services for someone like Conor to maintain a high quality of life when they leave the public school system. He’s afraid Conor will fall through the cracks.

“My big fear is that he will simply be put into a room in Campbellton in the psychiatric hospital without any real life to live once I’m too old or deceased.

“On the other hand, I don’t want him dumped into one of the group homes they have.

“They don’t have staff trained to help him and they don’t have enough programs to really work with someone like my son.”

***

Autism is a developmental disorder that affects a person’s communication and social skills. The severity of the disorder ranges from the severe form that Conor has to Asperger’s, a more mild form depicted in movies like Rainman. The Centre for Disease Control and Prevention says one in 110 children have autism.

New Brunswick provides care both in a patient’s home and in residential facilities for more than 6,250 adults under 65 with disabilities, including autism, says Department of Social Development spokesman Mark Barbour.

But Barbour admits the province needs to do more to help autistic adults.

“There is a need for more specialized services for autistic youth and adults, whose behaviours or conditions are severely impaired.

“These individuals require services and supports designed to specifically meet their high care needs.”

The province wants to build an autism residential facility, which would provide permanent care for severely autistic adults who can’t live on their own, Barbour said.

Not only is the current system not comprehensive enough for adults with varying degrees of autism, but it’s also expensive, says child psychologist and autism expert Dr. Paul McDonnell.

Autistic adults are often sent to privately run group homes or in extreme cases, sent to psychiatric care in Campbellton or out of province.

“It’s fairly expensive to put people in group homes and if you have to send people out of the province then it’s much, much more expensive,” McDonnell said.

“If they’re placed far away from their families, that creates a lot of hardship as well. A lot of people aren’t functioning at the level they could. They’re simply not having the quality of life they should be having.”

McDonnell thinks the province needs to train people to be prepared to deal with adults with severe behavioural challenges.

“They should have stimulating recreational, educational programs. That is absolutely essential.

“That’s what we need to aim towards is setting up a system where we have some really well-trained people.”

***

Every school night before Conor goes to bed, he packs his lunch and puts it by the door.

Conor is in Grade 9 at Leo Hayes High School and loves getting up and going to school every day.

In elementary school, Conor used to come home with bite marks, a sign of frustration from being placed in a regular classroom. Now, Conor studies in a resource room at the high school.

A severely autistic teenager like Conor thrives on the structure of the school day and he struggles when he doesn’t have that structure.

“When school days are missed for different reasons, it’s challenging for him,” Doherty said.

Doherty worries about how to manage Conor’s behaviour when he’s finished with the public school system.

“It’s difficult as parents to give him the structure that he gets at school.”

Many members of the Autism Society of New Brunswick are parents who share similar worries. Doherty organized the society’s first meeting in two years in January.

The parents have been lobbying the government to reform autism services for years. They started out lobbying for services for the youngest kids and saw an autism intervention training program developed at the University of New Brunswick’s College of Extended Learning in 2004.

“We know that wasn’t going to help our children. My son never got the benefit of those (pre-school) services. But it was the right thing to do,” Doherty said.

The parents moved on to advocating for better services at the grade school level and have spent the last couple of years focusing on adult services.

“It’s tougher to get that same emotional response when you’re talking about adults.”

Many of those same parents got burnt out trying to manage careers, autism advocacy work and their families, Doherty said, and the society was disbanded for two years.

But with the clock ticking and Conor approaching adulthood, Doherty knew it would be necessary to have a society to communicate with government.

“Because we don’t look for compensation, we’re not in a conflict of interest. We can’t be pressured into representing our children to the fullest of our ability.

“That’s why we were able to keep pushing ahead when other people pulled back. We know how important it is.”

McDonnell, who has worked with parents to help them understand autism, knows how important it is for parents to be advocates.

“If you don’t (advocate), you simply won’t get the services.”

***

Six weeks ago, Conor had a meltdown in the middle of the night.

Around 2:30 a.m., Doherty woke up to find his son harming himself. Clearly frustrated, Conor was slapping himself in the face and head.

“I tried to talk him out of it and manage his behaviour and it didn’t work this time.

“I tried to grab his arms to restrain him from hurting himself … he lunged forward and gave a good bite on my bicep.”

This is a rare example of a time when communication broke down between Doherty and his son, making it hard for him to manage his son’s behaviour.

Doherty suspects Conor’s frustration that night came from not understanding the teenage changes going on in his body.

The incident serves as a reminder of Doherty’s race against the clock to ensure his son will be able to live his adult life with dignity.

While Doherty is worried about the future, he maintains he isn’t going anywhere soon. Spending time outdoors and running around with Conor, who has a lot of energy, is keeping him healthy and young in body and spirit.

“(Conor) has his frustrated moments but those are far outweighed by the moments he’s just happy and smiling a

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Dropping all COVID Restrictions in NB? Is NB Government Acting Rashly?

 

You can see Conor's smile even while wearing a mask. Conor has not felt uncomfortable wearing a mask and has made sure Dad wears mine when we go out the door. We have followed directions from Dr Russell throughout the COVID era. I am personally surprised though that NB is shutting down restrictions shortly.

 I know NB has done well but we are part of the world and that is ONE lesson we all should have learned during the pandemic. Below our borders the US is subject to some serious increases in COVID particularly from the Delta Variant. I hope my concerns do not materialize and that all goes well. I will probably continue to wear a mask for awhile though.

Shards of Glass - Severe Autism Realities Hidden from Sight

 

I love to post the many pictures of Conor's happiness and his wonderful smile but he has always suffered from the more severe realities that afflict some with autism particularly those like him with ID and epilepsy. Severe autism realities from 7 years ago. The picture shows broken glass fragments which I found some time after Conor had put his hand through a window which he did a few times back then as well as through walls ,,, many times. Things have improved for him and it has been done primarily with medications. He still suffers moments of pain on occasion. Wearing costumes and praising autism as a gift and a community doesn't address the realities of those with autism, intellectual disability, migraine level headache pain and seizures of whom Conor is one. Conor can enjoy life and his smile is proof positive but painful reality can never be dismissed or ignored.

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Shards of Severe Autism Reality

We were cleaning books and papers out of the "China Cabinet" in our kitchen today. We had never stored China there only photos, albums and papers. Like other China Cabinets though there were glass doors on the front through which you could view the China. Over time Conor had, on different occasions, while suffering meltdowns, put his hands through the glass windows. I thought I had gotten all the glass out on each occasion but today after moving a group of albums I found some shards of glass, shards of severe autism realities.

Such events are not talked about by those alleged "thinking persons" and others who talk breathlessly about the joys of autism and criticize parents, and grandparents, of children with severe autism disorders and intellectual disabilities who talk honestly about the severe challenges faced by their own children, the children they love. Personally they will not stop me from talking honestly about the severe autism disorder from which my son suffers and yes he does suffer from it. I will continue to speak the truth about these serious neurological disorders and if my words seem to them like shards of glass then so be it.